Running to God to find a spouse.

With my recent longing for my life to progress the way I desire, I have had many talks with my Grandmother about her marriages. Again and again the problems she faced, she would say "And that's where a christian man comes in." Meaning that-that issue would not exist with a man that is following God. I was reminded of an example I've redrawn to share.

I went through many notecards and such from a time early in her marriage with Dusty, and saw a part that doesn't exist any longer. This caused me to wonder all the more. I asked Granny how she would describe the first part of her marriage with Dusty. "Fun," she said, "when we wanted to do something we did it. When we wanted to go somewhere we went." And after a few other notes about it, she said "Worldly." They did not have God as a part of their life, and she regrets that.

I have learned a lot from my grandmother, and her experiences. I have learned the truth and the need to do the saying "Run toward God as fast as you can, and if someone can keep up introduce yourself." The only kind of relationship I want, be it friend or romantic, is one focused on God first. The closer you are to God, the closer you are to a Godly spouse.

With the thought of marriage in mind, there comes the thought of maturity. Immature people get married all the time, and that brings trouble to them. The question also comes "What is maturity?"
I dwelled on this awhile, thinking about the things we attribute to it. It all comes down to Godly living.
Maturity is:
Someone who handles a bad situation calmly and with grace.
Someone who thinks of others, and not just themselves.
Someone who doesn't just waste.
Someone who isn't rash, and careless.
Someone who is willing to admit they aren't perfect, that sometimes things are their fault.
Someone who doesn't make excuses for everything they do, trying to pass the blame.
Someone who is willing to give of themselves.

That isn't a complete list of mature living, but a glimpse of what I have learned about maturity in the last year. I used to be so determined, frustrated, and obsessed with "growing up" that I couldn't see that I had the wrong goal. Growing older is something no one can avoid, maturing is something too few do.
Second Timothy 3:16-17 says  "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works." Perfect meaning completed. This perfection, or completion, refers to a maturity in the things of God.
So, I began to study what a Christian should be, what a wife should be, and what a husband should be. I am far from completing my study, but but what I have learned so far I have made a list of what to look for in a person I would live with:

One man of God:

Must have solid relationship with Christ.

Must be Responsible with money.

Must be Honest,

Humble,

Respectful,

Even Tempered,

Forgiving,

Loving,

Willing to Listen,

Willing to Work Hard,

Willing to Learn.

Must be of Good Reputation,

Hospitable,

Teacher of the things of God,

Leader,

and Patient.